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Post by Ponyta » Mon Apr 25, 2011 5:46 pm

At the Saturday night dance I was dancing with a guy who ended up getting a little too frisky when my friend came over and took me to get a cup of water. Later she told me that a couple of guys had noticed my predicament and informed my friend so she could help me out. So if you happen to be on the forums, I just want to thank you very much for your help. It was very appreciated, and I hope you enjoyed the rest of the convention, lol :]

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Post by Fyrii » Mon Apr 25, 2011 7:22 pm

Same thing happened to me..some guy grabbed me from behind and tried dancing with me...then he started rubbing my neck (wtf?) so I tried to get away, which was hard considering the lack of room anywhere on the floor. >_> It just kinda creeps me out when someone doesn't ask me first and grabs at me.
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Post by Om Nom Nom » Mon Apr 25, 2011 8:16 pm

This happened to my best friend as well. We weren't at the dance Saturday night for five minutes before this tall guy with a blue baseball cap grabs her from being and starts rubbing her neck, kissing her, feeling her up and absolutely WOULDN'T let her go until one of our guy friends made him go away. This almost ruined our night as my friend was terrified and crying after. People are so messed up these days D:<

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Post by Jen-Chan » Mon Apr 25, 2011 9:28 pm

Yea I got a couple 'not asked for' dances with a couple guys. Even one that was very persistent even after I walked away uninterested. It got to the point where me and my friends walked into the mosh to get away from them. I was also invited to several 'after partys' and 'booty calls' I found these funny and just threw the invites away. I guys in a way I liked the attention (for once) but I wasn't about to let people take advantage of me!

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Post by Ponyta » Mon Apr 25, 2011 9:39 pm

On the plus side, mine was consensual until the last bit. I had met him before, and come to find out he was actually very drunk. :\ But when his friends told him what happened, he genuinely apologized.
Reading these responses though, I had no idea that people like that were such an issue. This was my fourth AB, but the first time I've had an issue at the dances. Aside from my buddy, another guy kept trying to dance with me and my friends after we made it clear we weren't interested. At one point he tried to forcibly remove my hand from my friends waist to dance with her. In the end my other friend told him off and then he got offended. It's such a shame that some people can't take hints.. Or have some concept of respect for others. :p
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Post by Huui » Mon Apr 25, 2011 11:57 pm

I've been depressed now since the Saturday night dance because of something that happened. I think it was around 11pm...I feel horrible :( There was this girl dancing next to me who I thought was really cute, so I asked how old she was because she looked young. She told me 21, which is the same age as me. I'm normally shy and have a hard time talking to girls but after a few minutes I decided to get over it and just ask her to dance.

She said yes and for the 5 minutes it lasted I was so happy. I don't know what I did wrong but she left for water and never came back. T.T I was too sad to dance the rest of the night so I just sat and tried to enjoy the good music. I never made a friend at Anime Boston and I was hoping we could talk and get to know eachother better while being dancing buddies but I guess I did something wrong.

The girl was petite, had nice red hair/wig, lip stick, jeans on, and a pretty face. If you're reading this, I'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable at the dance, and thank you for dancing with me. I was happy ^^;

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Post by Crinoline » Tue Apr 26, 2011 6:55 am

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Post by royalbakaness » Tue Apr 26, 2011 11:55 am

I didn't attend the dance but Saturday night we were outside the Sheraton waiting for our friend to come pick his daughter and niece up (whom had accompanied us to the con) and these two guys (not in cosplay) came up and asked if they could by our badges off of us to go to the dance. My brother and I made up some elaborate story about how strict they are about checking badges and they left. But I could totally see them only going to pick up young girls. Hope they never made it in @_@
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Post by chandyland » Tue Apr 26, 2011 2:32 pm

I'm surprised they still haven't put an age restriction on the dance. I was quite concerned to see a little boy who looked about 10 come out shirtless o.o

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Post by Guiiii » Tue Apr 26, 2011 2:40 pm

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Post by Auron_of_Boston » Tue Apr 26, 2011 2:50 pm

i agree completely, i'm 23 years old and when i go in there and see these 12-15 year olds which it seems is the majority of the people there, it makes me feel like a pedo just being in the same dance, especially when i see these girls grinding on people. its just weird

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Post by freakypetachick » Tue Apr 26, 2011 3:10 pm

yeah i know i was grabbed by someone but that didnt last long, since my bf was right behind me and punched him.he was with me the whole 2 nights and thank god he was. some people were staring but didnt have the balls to touch.

on another note it was kinda gross cause we hadda let this guy room with our group b/c his "friends" [24-38] got kicked out of the hotel for having a tea party with a 15 year old they met on friday. creepy much?

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Post by Serenatai » Thu Apr 28, 2011 12:49 am

Honestly? If I had this happen to me or seen it happen to another girl, I'd hit the guy where it hurts. Haha. Thank goodness, I didn't stay long in the dance to have it happen to me.

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Post by momoney781 » Thu Apr 28, 2011 9:04 am

I totally agree. I wish they had two different dances for young teens and maybe like a 18 or 21+ dance. I liked the dance its being in the same place as kids from high school kinda creeped me out
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Post by Keithel » Fri Apr 29, 2011 10:40 pm

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Post by Don Julio » Sat Apr 30, 2011 9:52 am

ill chime in my 2 cents, im one of the older guys(25) who went to the saturday dance/dance and i actually didnt dance that much do to the mixed age group....i actually said to myself " hmmm that girls kinda cute but theres prob a 50/50 chance she is under 18", i felt a little awkward knowing the girl dancing next to me could be my 16 year old cousin( who actually was there)

i think an 18+ dance is a good idea and wouldnt hurt

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Post by mangaisawsum » Sun May 08, 2011 2:20 pm

DERP! I had that happen to me and yes I'm 18! But to be honest I was just happy the guy I got grabbed by was cute. I just wish I had the courage to find out his name. There was also another guy who asked me to dance so I did and all of a sudden he started feelin me up an licked my neck. Weird but then again it was ok in a way. But I do vote that there should be an age limit. Then I wouldn't end up seeing little kids dancing even more wild then me! And that's all I have to put in lawl!

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Post by VanilliaKissu » Sun May 08, 2011 8:30 pm

I'm not much for dances, but my best friend really wanted to go, since it was her first AB. She and me were usually together dancing, but at one point a guy came up to ask me to dance. Not to be judgmental or anything but he looked like a creeper. My friend totally just pulled me right to her at that moment and was like "She's with me.' it was quite funny. Needless to say, I'm still not to fond of dances.

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Post by kmcwilliams94 » Wed May 11, 2011 7:44 pm

[quote=Green_Lantern]i agree completely, i'm 23 years old and when i go in there and see these 12-15 year olds which it seems is the majority of the people there, it makes me feel like a pedo just being in the same dance, especially when i see these girls grinding on people. its just weird[/quote]
people should learn to just have fun, not use it as a "sex fest" away from there parents, grinding and making out and things along that line should be done in the privacy of a hotel room, not out in the open for everyone to see.

and my boyfriend stayed late saturday (i went back to my room) and he's 15 and a man about 40 years old came out to him and started to dance with him and tried to play "the pocky game" with a glowstick with him.
so it isnt just girls being harassed.
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Post by Mama Undertaker » Wed May 11, 2011 10:23 pm

I didnt go to any dances this year, i usually go to one but it might have been a good thing i didnt. I am a hitter and screamer so if a guy started to do stuff like what was said above and didnt stop when asked or walked away from. I would have just started screaming as loud as i could or started getting violent.

hitting is bad dont hit people but screaming may be a good option especially if they dont stop even after being asked, and ignored. It draws attention to you and the other person which is usually what they dont want and it makes them back down not to mention everyone else will see them and that makes him easier to keep an eye on lowering his chances of messing with another person. And or it will get staff involved and then he wont be able to do squat anymore
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Post by LeeleeTheBunny » Sun May 15, 2011 11:59 pm

If you think those guys harassing you are scary then you haven't seen our awesome overnight security team. They are there to help you and will never leave you in an unwanted situation. Look for orange security shirts! Also, it helps other people when you get security since they have the ability to kick people out so they cannot harass anyone else.

Glad to hear you were all in some way "rescued" though. I wish there was a way to eliminate the creepy people who make the dance less fun, but if you get a security staffer we can work to drastically cut it down. =)

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Post by Hakkyou1403 » Mon May 16, 2011 12:57 am

I think an 18+ dance would be cool, but I imagine it would be difficult to hire more DJ's and get all the equipment set up. I usually prefer to dance alone but I did notice a lot of touching going on on the dance floor. I think that if you are harassed just let someone know. I know that AB doesn't play about stuff like that and they can and will help.

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Post by kmcwilliams94 » Mon May 16, 2011 4:25 pm

[quote=Hakkyou1403]I think an 18+ dance would be cool, but I imagine it would be difficult to hire more DJ's and get all the equipment set up. I usually prefer to dance alone but I did notice a lot of touching going on on the dance floor. I think that if you are harassed just let someone know. I know that AB doesn't play about stuff like that and they can and will help.[/quote]
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Post by Aulos » Mon May 16, 2011 5:50 pm

Guy here...
Imagine the awkwardness when you learn the dance wasn't 18+... things made a lot more sense after that.
Well not that it would have changed anything if it were - nothing happened nor would happen. I just enjoyed the dance.
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Post by iamgiselle » Wed Jun 15, 2011 9:41 am

im 16, and i am not one of the people getting naked and jumping on prople. I was 15 at the last AB, and this guy came up behind me and was trying to massage me and stuff, which was extremely creepy, but i told him to back off as i was underage, and it was done.
that being said, i would hate if they made an under 18 dance because im sick and tired of being prohibited from places when im not causing the trouble, its guys that are over 18.

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